The Effects of Fatherlessness on Children
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
Father Factor in Education – Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school.
- Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
- Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
- Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school.
- Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.
- 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.
Father Factor in Drug and Alcohol Abuse – Researchers at Columbia University found that children living in two-parent household with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households. Teens in single mother households are at a 30% higher risk than those in two-parent households.
- 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)
- 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
Father Factor in Incarceration – Even after controlling for income, youths in father-absent households still had significantly higher odds of incarceration than those in mother-father families. Youths who never had a father in the household experienced the highest odds. A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only households. Approximately forty-six percent of jail inmates in 2002 had a previously incarcerated family member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or jail.
Father Factor in Crime – A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys, in single-parent families were at higher risk of status, property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students attending schools with a high proportion of children of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent
Father Factor in Child Abuse – Compared to living with both parents, living in a single-parent home doubles the risk that a child will suffer physical, emotional, or educational neglect. The overall rate of child abuse and neglect in single-parent households is 27.3 children per 1,000, whereas the rate of overall maltreatment in two-parent households is 15.5 per 1,000.
Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.
- 43% of US children live without their father [US Department of Census]
- 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
- 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. [Criminal Justice & Behaviour, Vol 14, pp. 403-26, 1978]
- 71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. [U.S. Department of Health and Human Services press release, Friday, March 26, 1999]
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
- 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. [Center for Disease Control]
- 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. [Wray Herbert, “Dousing the Kindlers,” Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28]
- 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. [National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools]
- 75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. [Rainbows f for all God’s Children]
- 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father. [US Department of Justice, Special Report, Sept. 1988]
- 85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. [Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Department of Corrections, 1992]
- Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March 26, 1999]
Census Fatherhood Statistics
- 64.3 million: Estimated number of fathers across the nation
- 26.5 million: Number of fathers who are part of married-couple families with their own children under the age of 18.
Among these fathers –
- 22 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old (among married-couple family households only).
- 2 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative.
- 2.5 million: Number of single fathers, up from 400,000 in 1970. Currently, among single parents living with their children, 18 percent are men.
Among these fathers –
- 8 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old.
- 42 percent are divorced, 38 percent have never married, 16 percent are separated and 4 percent are widowed. (The percentages of those divorced and never married are not significantly different from one another.)
- 16 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative.
- 27 percent have an annual family income of $50,000 or more.
- 85 percent: Among the 30.2 million fathers living with children younger than 18, the percentage who lived with their biological children only.
- 11 percent lived with step-children
- 4 percent with adopted children
- < 1 percent with foster children
Recent policies encourage the development of programs designed to improve the economic status of low-income nonresident fathers and the financial and emotional support provided to their children. This brief provides ten key lessons from several important early responsible fatherhood initiatives that were developed and implemented during the 1990s and early 2000s. Formal evaluations of these earlier fatherhood efforts have been completed making this an opportune time to step back and assess what has been learned and how to build on the early programs’ successes and challenges.While the following statistics are formidable, the Responsible Fatherhood research literature generally supports the claim that a loving and nurturing father improves outcomes for children, families and communities.
- Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity compared to children who have uninvolved fathers.
- Studies on parent-child relationships and child wellbeing show that father love is an important factor in predicting the social, emotional, and cognitive development and functioning of children and young adults.
- 24 million children (34 percent) live absent their biological father.
- Nearly 20 million children (27 percent) live in single-parent homes.
- 43 percent of first marriages dissolve within fifteen years; about 60 percent of divorcing couples have children; and approximately one million children each year experience the divorce of their parents.
- Fathers who live with their children are more likely to have a close, enduring relationship with their children than those who do not.
- Compared to children born within marriage, children born to cohabiting parents are three times as likely to experience father absence, and children born to unmarried, non-cohabiting parents are four times as likely to live in a father-absent home.
- About 40 percent of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26 percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and 50 percent of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father’s home.
- Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents.
- From 1995 to 2000, the proportion of children living in single-parent homes slightly declined, while the proportion of children living with two married parents remained stable.
Joe Stapp is a psychotherapist and owner of Blue Ridge Counseling in Dawsonville, Georgia. He has been practicing for 23 years with children, adolescents, and adults as well as serving as Clinical Director for 2 other programs. To book speaking engagements, please contact Mr. Stapp at [email protected]
“I HATE you!!” “You don’t understand!” “Look at what you made me do!”
“You are the DUMBEST parents in the world!” “But I WANT it!”
“I give up…I’m just stupid anyway” “You don’t love me!”
“I’m worthless” “Of course I studied” “Make me!”
“I didn’t smoke; I was just around people who were; you should be proud of me.”
Have you heard your child say some (or all) of these phrases? After picking up the pieces of a broken plate; pacing the floor while waiting for your child to return home; attending the 8+ disciplinary meeting at school; or conducting an investigation that would impress CSI, you may find yourself asking the same question I have heard from hundreds of parents I’ve seen in my practice: “Why do they act that way?”
Being a parent today is a very difficult responsibility. A parent used to have the most input into their child’s life. As society becomes faster, parents are trying to compete with an increasing amount of negativity from the internet, advertising, video games, music, television, etc., etc…
Though it may seem overwhelming, the key to understanding and answering the question, “Why do they do that?” is found by looking at the basis of negative behavior – emotional control. Remember, people do things over and over again, not because they don’t get anything, but because they do get something.
Dr. Rudolph Dreikurs, a child psychiatrist, investigated the source of dysfunctional behavior and found that children are trying to meet four basic needs: Attention, Power, Fairness, and Competence. All people, young and old, need all four to feel a sense of contentment.
When a child doesn’t believe they can earn positive attention, they work to get negative attention. This does not mean a parent hasn’t given positive attention, just that their child doesn’t see it.
How do these kids gain this negative attention? My wife recently disciplined our child. As he spent time alone in his room, he developed an ingenious idea: If he could not leave his room, his remote control car could! He took great pleasure in working the controls of the car as it sped down the hallway to get the attention he couldn’t get at that time. Though his car was immediately impounded, it certainly made an impression!
Certainly, this behavior is mild compared to a child who gets sent (once again) to the principal’s office for being profane in class or a child who “accidentally” leaves vomit in the toilet after purging. When kids start getting into these acts, I usually receive a call asking for help. I quickly hear the kids describe a situation where they don’t want to act this way, they believe they have to do these things in order to get noticed for something. Eventually, this same child realizes it feels better to do the right thing than the wrong thing; parents realize they are not to blame for the behavior, but need to be aware of the ways they can unknowingly contribute to the behavior.
Attention is a necessary part of being human. It is one of the ways people gauge their influence on others. When teens are seeking negative attention, they are trying to be involved in a parent’s life. One of the top ways to shift things in a positive direction is to catch kids when they’re being good. It can be easy to focus on the negative behavior, but most parents I’ve talked to realize their kids receive a bigger payoff for their negative than positive behavior. At the same time, don’t go overboard on the praise. Try using what I call “stealth reinforcement”. Rather than repeating praise many times, give praise once or twice and switch to another topic. This is like throwing a curveball to your child. It increases their interest in doing the positive behavior again to see if it was just a fluke. With consistent “stealth reinforcement”, you will likely see an increase in negative behavior at first, but a slow decrease over time. If your child does not respond in this manner, do not give up, please give me a call to help. There could be additional issues present that require professional help.